Not Alone: Walking Through The Temptation to Compare

Post by Kalle Schrader

The Yogurt Tastes Better on the Other Side 

“I want a yogurt. Why does he get a yogurt?”, my oldest son asked me as we stood in our kitchen. I replied, “Because I asked you both what you wanted and you said you wanted a chewy bar.” He looked down at the bar in his hand. “Yeah, but that looks better than my bar. I want to switch please.”

I said, “I’m sorry but you chose the bar and already started eating it. You can have a yogurt later if you’d like.” 

I could tell by the look on my son’s face that he was not super happy with his snack choice. He had been excited to have a chewy bar before, but then he saw how much his brother was enjoying his yogurt. In an instant, that yummy little bar wasn’t so yummy anymore. It was lacking something. But the yogurt his brother had seemed to be just perfect. 

With a smile I said, “be happy with what you have.” That was the end of the conversation.

In that moment, I couldn’t help but feel convicted. The words I just spoke to him seemed to be an easy enough answer. “Be happy with what you have.” I thought to myself, “Does that apply to me as well?”

Kids often compare what they have to what others have. The comparison may be centered around the clothes they wear, the toys they have, or the grades they get. Comparison begins young.

The response from most adults is: “be happy with what you have” or “when you get older this won’t be as big of a deal. You’ll learn to just be happy with who you are and what you have.”

In my 27 years of life I don’t know that I’ve ever stopped comparing myself to others. Sure, there are times where I’m more confident and comfortable, but in a world that is so ruled by technology and social media it is hard not to compare constantly.

Struggles with comparison don’t always get easier as we grow older. At times, it can almost be harder and for christians it can almost be crippling.

As Christians we are told that we should be different from the world and not care so much about worldly things. When I’m trying to fit into my favorite dress and the zipper is not going up, I’m not really thinking so much about if I am exemplifying Christ. All I can think about in that moment is if I am too chunky or if I’ve lost the baby weight yet. I’m thinking about the woman who posted a selfie earlier that morning on Instagram. Perfect hair. Perfect make-up. Perfect. Perfect. Perfect.

So why do we seek perfection? It all begins in Genesis. In Genesis we are told that God created the world, He created Adam, and He created Eve. God gave Adam and Eve everything they needed in the garden. They had food and water and were not lacking anything. Somehow comparison still snuck in.

Next, the snake tempted Eve and she took a bite of the fruit. That was the first sin and the fall of man. If we dig a little deeper and try to look into why Eve took the fruit, we can see that the answer is clearly comparison.

The serpent whispered to her that what she had was not good enough. She believed that she simply wasn’t good enough and that she needed more. What God had for Eve was far better than anything she could ever do or be on her own.

She was not seeking to glorify God. Eve was seeking to glorify herself. She was seeking the created and not the Creator. If we’re really being honest, don’t we do that, sisters?Don’t we compare what God has given us, or what He has not given us, to that of others? Are we truly seeking what will glorify God or are we seeking what will glorify ourselves?

I have struggled with comparison for years. I think as women we are more prone to comparison, but we are not without hope. The answer to our struggles with comparison is in Christ alone.

I’ll be sharing more on this topic in a series of posts. I’ll be sharing with you my specific struggles with comparison (I bet we have a lot of things in common!)I’ll also be sharing practical tips about guarding your heart and where we should turn when comparison strikes. We will also be diving into when and what is the right time and way to compare ourselves to others. For now, I hope you can find encouragement in reflecting on the Bible verses below. I have found them to be very helpful and know they will be a comfort to you as well.

Psalm 139: 14 

Romans 12:2

1 Corinthians 3:3-4

1 Corinthians 11:1

2 Corinthians 13:5 

Galatians 6:4-5 

1 Thessalonians 4:11-12 

1 John 2:15

Lord, I pray for all the women who are currently struggling with comparison. In our world, we’re constantly being told that we aren’t good enough. But not by your standards Lord, but by the worlds. Truly we are not good enough for your love and mercy, but the hope and wonderful thing is that your Son Jesus is good enough. He’s good enough for all of us. So please help us discern what is important and right. Help us to grow in You. I pray that we would all seek You and not the things of this world. In Jesus name I pray. Amen.

Kal-le is a wife and mama living in beautiful West Virginia. She has a passion for worshipping Jesus, sharing God’s truth with others, and writing about her own personal sin struggles. Kal-le serves her family full-time at home where she aims to glorify God in the everyday moments of life. You can follow her on Instagram @mama__schrader.